Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Monday, 18 February 2013. Posted in Ten Step

February 18, 2013

On Saturday I went in for a long over due hair appointment, not to mention my regular manicure and pedicure. Although I have been minding the British phrase "keep calm and carry on", I suddenly noticed that I was neglecting myself a little bit in the wake of all my responsibilities…, bar examination (beginning a week from tomorrow) preparation, and Alcoholics Anonymous ("AA") maintenance, not to mention my never-a-dull-moment personal life.

With that said, I was adamant about taking some time for myself, i.e., taking my mind off of everything that is going on and just being good to myself.

My part is that typically I have been the Type A Alcoholic, i.e., putting everyone's feelings first, being responsible, shaking off my concerns, fears and hurts, never resting, "eating all my vegetables first", getting all my work done, taking care of EVERYTHING, never sitting still, and if I happened to have some time left then I took minimal care of yourself, the basics you know.

That approach worked until it no longer worked, that's when I picked up prescription pills. I do not want to pick up prescription pills or alcohol again, as I have heard, consistently in the rooms of AA, that it only gets worse.

So, this past weekend, I slept in, did not answer the phone, ate super healthy, went to bed early, and even saw a film, Beautiful Creatures. I liked it very much!

As well, I listened to a lot of music, lit candles, read some magazines, and even took a couple of long hikes. At the heart of me, I am incredibly responsible so I studied of course, a lot, and I wrote as well, and even managed to do my laundry and get to the grocer. Aside from writing for work, I am writing my first book, so I worked on tweaking my book that I intend to release this year.

In any regard, if any of this resonates with you take a moment and pray. Ask your Higher Power, not to mention yourself, for forgiveness for taking yourself for granted. Ask for guidance, in an effort to do at least three things for yourself on a daily basis. Start small if you have to, but remember that you deserve you first, so invest in yourself!

"You gotta keep your heart young. Don't go growing old before your time is come. You can't take back what you've done… gotta keep your heart young."

I Love You All, for the most part :)

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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