February 13, 2013
Like many alcoholics and addicts I have been guilty of reacting to the negativity of others and certainly responding in kind to the pettiness of others, particularly alcoholics in addicts, even in sobriety.
Most recently, as I have attempted to move forward in my life, i.e., laser focus on my goals and work, I have had to deal with a significant number of people who have been concerned about "my side of street."
In fact, other addicts and alcoholics have been pointing the finger at me, concerned that I have changed, and I am not the same person that I once was. To be honest, not that it is anyone's business, I have changed. I love the changes, finally I have boundaries in my life and I am not giving more than I want to give. I am saving some of my energy for me!
Besides, I don't know anyone who does not change, nor remains the same forever. Even more, I do not want to remain the same forever, that is stagnation.
I want to grow, evolve, become a better a person, i.e., every day I am working toward becoming the best version of myself, irrespective of anyone else views of me.
With that said, as I have been faced with a litany of unwarranted attacks and concerns from other alcoholics and addicts, I initially felt frustrated, even resentful. Then I prayed, and prayed more, and that's when my perception shifted from fear to strength!
My part was that I ever cared about their concerns. I personally know that their concerns have no merit. I know what my intentions are and the rest is irrelevant.
I have dealt with abusive and manipulative people, not to mention bullies from the time that I emerged from the wound.
Today I realize that I have a choice in the matter. If I don't feel supported by someone, or if I feel they don't have my best interest in mind, I have a right to walk away, withdraw, and establish boundaries.
God, help me to let go of fear and to be comfortable with being myself. Strengthen my mind, protect me and help me to stand firm in my resolve. Amen.
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