Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Monday, 11 February 2013. Posted in Ten Step

February 11, 2012

Over the weekend I did some shopping for a few upcoming events that I have to attend. I figured that I might as well get it out of the way now, as the next two weeks I will be really busy.

With that said, one of the items that I needed to purchase was a bow-tie. I have several solid colored bow-ties, but because of the nature of the event a pattern would be more appropriate.

I walked into a very upscale men's boutique shop and asked to see some patterned bow-ties. What happened next was yet again another indication that I have alcoholic thinking.

The sales clerk explained that he could help me. Keep in mind, I know quite a bit about fashion, as I have traveled a lot, and I regularly read fashion publications. Therefore, I had an idea of what I wanted.

Consequently, I was aghast when the the sales clerk asked me if I knew what pattern argyle was? My initial thought was that he was being sarcastic. Doesn't he know who I am? Isn't it obvious that I am sophisticated, cosmopolitan……..absolutely above reproach, or so I thought!

My part was that I was self-absorbed, assuming it was all about me. The fact of the matter is that cannot comprehend that anyone could think that I do not know something. I cannot comprehend that it is ok to not know something (such alcoholic thinking).

Regardless of what my perception of what he said was, I knew that I knew what argyle was. I should have just politely answered his question, and for the most part I did.

I assumed that the "silly" sales clerk was insulting me and assuming that I could not possibly know what argyle was. The fact of the matter is that he was just being matter of fact, i.e., not assuming anything and just asking me questions to better assist me.

God, help me to not make assumptions. Aid me with being more tolerant and patient. Amen.

"When you catch yourself thinking something you don't like, stop it; reverse it; set yourself free."

I Love You All, for the most part :)

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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