Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Thursday, 27 December 2012. Posted in Ten Step

December 27, 2012

The holiday season has been particularly nice this year. It has been one of the most joyous holiday seasons that I have experienced in recent years, not to mention my entire life.

With that said, I am sort of excited for the holidays to be over. The chaos can be overwhelming and frustrating for an addict like me.

In fact, I am still reeling from a situation that occurred on Christmas Eve. I was in line at a very nice department store, waiting to purchase a last minute gift to myself…..gotta take advantage of last minute sales!

Well, this lady just walked in front of me as I stood there in line that I had been waiting in for quite some time. Apparently she was more in a hurry than I was as she exclaimed, “you don’t mind…I have to get some gift cards, and I am late for a work party.”

I stood there flabbergasted. As she put me on the spot, I did not want to appear like an unkind jerk in front of everyone so I just said nothing. Actually, I do not think that I even acknowledged her.

Meanwhile, yesterday I was at Starbucks when I encountered a similar situation with a woman who needed to buy gift cards!

In this instance, the woman was rightfully ahead of me but I had to wait in line at least 15 minutes behind her as she was determined to make out the amount of each gift card and place each gift card in its individual envelope, at the cashier station. It was ghastly!!

I was actually a little more unnerved at the cashier who allowed her to do it.

>In both situations, my part was that I was quick to anger and become frustrated. I dislike waiting, and I can be impatient and intolerant of other people’s character defects. To be honest, I was not in a hurry in either situation.

God divorce me from anger, frustration, intolerance, and impatience. Help me to be more empathetic, compassionate, tolerant and patient.

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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