Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Friday, 07 December 2012. Posted in Ten Step

December 07, 2012

Have you ever experienced a situation in which you were questioned by someone, perhaps a friend or fellow addict/or alcoholic? The questions sort of felt uncomfortable, but you answered anyway, in an attempt to avoid potential conflict, suspicion, or because you just did not quite understand what was happening…..

Nevertheless, you later felt violated or offended regarding the “line of questioning” the more you thought about what occurred…..“you put two and two together.”

Despite your natural instinct you accommodated the person and attempted to allay his or her suspicions, only to later realize that you were bamboozled, controlled, manipulated, cajoled, or made to feel distrusted.

Well, your part was that you gave this person the benefit of the doubt, you handed over your power and allowed the person to manipulate you, undermine your confidence, and/or intimidate you.

It may be difficult, but it is useful to learn to feel, sit with and process uncomfortable feelings.

When we take this approach, we don’t later feel like the victim, nor do we consume drugs or alcohol to avoid the pain.

With that said, should you face a situation similar to the one referenced above occurs or perhaps the behavior of another makes you feel in a manner you otherwise prefer not to feel, you don’t do not have to participate. When you do not participate, the reward is that you feel empowered and not like a victim.

In the moment, despite how we feel, with regard to reluctance, fear, apprehension, or self-doubt, we should take the action that is most consistent with our values and principles irrespective of what the other person might think or how that person might feel. Although, always consider the totality of the circumstances.

Remember, we serve no one by allowing others to disregard how we prefer to be treated.

In other words, our privacy, safety, or even preferences should not be obscured by or be at the expense of another person’s insecurities or unwarranted inquiries.


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Remember, life is difficult enough without adding active addiction, so live it clean and sober.

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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