Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Friday, 30 November 2012. Posted in Ten Step

November 30, 2012

I have this friend who cannot seem to take direction, despite the fact that he has had trouble remaining sober. I have helped him as much as I could.

I recently put him into treatment, helped him obtain a job, not to mention a sober place to live.

However, due to the fact that he has not been willing to take direction and abide by a few rules of sobriety, he placed it all in jeopardy! Actually, he lost it all!

I am sad to say that he is back at square one.

I just realized my part.

I did everything for him. I went above and beyond. I got too emotionally involved in the results of another alcoholic’s recovery….his recovery.

I did not let go and let God. I took over the wheel, overcompensating for his shortcomings, overlooking this…., making excuses for that……, and so forth.

I was attached to the idea that I single-handedly plucked him from the jungle of addiction and was responsible for his “inevitable” success, not just in sobriety, but in life.

I allowed my ego to get in the way. Consequently, when I learned that the opportunities that he was given, due to his association with me, were in fact stripped from him as gold medals were recently stripped from Lance Armstrong, I took it personal.

In fact, I felt a void and I felt let down by him.

The fact is that I was merely a vessel of God. God worked through me to get him the opportunities that he eventually lost.

God, divorce me from ego. Help me to keep my side of the street clean and to not become too personally invested in the recovery of another.

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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