Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Thursday, 29 November 2012. Posted in Ten Step

November 29, 2012

Recently, I was at a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous when I saw another Addict that I otherwise would not have preferred to see.

This particular person, with a number of years, at least two decades of sobriety, has a commitment at this particular Alcoholics Anonymous meeting that I enjoy attending. I will only inform you that this particular Addict handles the money.

With that said, I have seen this Addict, week after week, for as many years as I have attended this meeting, misappropriate the money, i.e., steal the money that we put in the basket.

Before I saw it for myself, I heard it as hearsay from so many people. Typically, I do not give too much credence or thought to gossip, as I know of the havoc that reckless disregard for the truth, spread by another(s), can cause. I subscribe to “innocent of until proven guilty”; I generally do not believe “it” as fact until I see it for myself…..it has been a blessing and a curse.

To make a long story short, in this case, I have seen it! So, what do I do?

Well, I keep my side of the street clean. When I see this Addict and I speak I am cordial if our eyes meet. Otherwise, I mind my own business.

I definitely don’t let my ego or self-righteousness intervene by verbally judging the person or “calling the person out”. I leave that up to God, i.e., I surrender; “I let go and let God.”

It is difficult, but each time I do that, in any given situation, I strengthen that practice like a muscle. Should I need to personally do something about it, I have faith that Heavenly Father will inform me.

Also, what I do at this particular Alcoholics Anonymous meeting is decline to give money. I give more money at another meeting.

What has also helped me are the words of several other Alcoholics who exclaimed, “thank God it is not us….he obviously needs it more than we do.” That’s true!

God, help me to turn it over to you, to not retaliate, or to hold grudges, and when this Addict shares, help me to not grunt, or make audible incendiary comments. Divorce me from ego, judgment and self-righteousness.

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Remember, life is difficult enough without adding active addiction, so live it clean and sober.


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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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