November 27, 2012
Alcoholics and addicts out there perhaps you have experienced the situation in which other individuals wish to indoctrinate you with their brand of experience, strength and hope, or if you will, unsolicited advice.
The problem occurs for me when the person, usually a fellow alcoholic or addict from the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous not only provides unsolicited advice, but expects me to follow it and admonishes me when I disagree or choose to not accept it.
Generally, I encounter other fellow addicts or alcoholics that inevitably ask me how I am doing. My default answer, and often true, is “I cannot complain.”
Of course the controlling alcoholic or addict that I am speaking with responds with “oh you can complain, you choose not to”, and there it begins…...
Due to the fact that they insist that I have a problem that they insist on remedying, I might share some minor challenge, often to just appease them. Before I know it I am listening to a diatribe, often about inapplicable principles from The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.
My part is that I should not be so impressionable.
In fact, I should stand firm with, “I cannot complain.”
Perhaps due to the way that I grew up, when I encounter dissidence I often go with the flow out of fear of being admonished, or the possibility of encountering confrontation.
The fact remains that I have to trust that I can handle confrontation and surrender to the fear, knowing that my higher power will be there with me every step of the way.
God, divorce me from acquiescing, appeasing, and running away from what I can otherwise handle with your assistance.
I am capable of hearing others points of view and then subsequently independently and autonomously making up my own mind. And, should I tire from hearing another’s explanation I am can be courageous enough to interject and say so.
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