November 21, 2012
I was doing some shopping at Erewhon recently. They have the best organic foods and drinks there. In any regard, I recognized someone that I knew from the rooms of Al Anon.
Super excited to see a fellow Al Anon, I walked up to her and said hi, and asked her if she remembered me from the rooms.
Actually, when I first met her, she was the main speaker at a meeting that I attended. Subsequently, we had a nice conversation. Consequently, I thought she would remember me when I said, "Hi…..do you remember me from Al Anon?"
To make a long story short, not only did she not remember me, she was upset with me that I asked her if she remembered me in public, despite the fact that she was alone.
In fact, she scolded me and said that I broke her anonymity despite the fact that no one was around to hear us and despite the fact that I did not bring up anything private. I promptly apologized although I felt confused.
She then replied, "It's ok sweetie" and walked away.
I should add that she happens to be quite a well-known actress and her parents, one in particular, are uber famous.
My part, I think, is that I expected her to remember me and I expected her to be happy to see me, not to mention gracious. I have to get through my mind that I am not some southern belle and nor will everyone treat me as such.
Also, I took her reaction personally, and that was also my part. I felt sad and like I was a scolded child.
Perhaps she was having a bad day, or perhaps that is just her personality. It is not all about me, and as an Alcoholic and Addict I have to realize that.
God, divorce me from expectation. Help me not to take things personal.
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