Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Wednesday, 21 November 2012. Posted in Ten Step

November 21, 2012

I was doing some shopping at Erewhon recently. They have the best organic foods and drinks there. In any regard, I recognized someone that I knew from the rooms of Al Anon.

Super excited to see a fellow Al Anon, I walked up to her and said hi, and asked her if she remembered me from the rooms.

Actually, when I first met her, she was the main speaker at a meeting that I attended. Subsequently, we had a nice conversation. Consequently, I thought she would remember me when I said, "Hi… you remember me from Al Anon?"

To make a long story short, not only did she not remember me, she was upset with me that I asked her if she remembered me in public, despite the fact that she was alone.

In fact, she scolded me and said that I broke her anonymity despite the fact that no one was around to hear us and despite the fact that I did not bring up anything private. I promptly apologized although I felt confused.

She then replied, "It's ok sweetie" and walked away.

I should add that she happens to be quite a well-known actress and her parents, one in particular, are uber famous.

My part, I think, is that I expected her to remember me and I expected her to be happy to see me, not to mention gracious. I have to get through my mind that I am not some southern belle and nor will everyone treat me as such.

Also, I took her reaction personally, and that was also my part. I felt sad and like I was a scolded child.

Perhaps she was having a bad day, or perhaps that is just her personality. It is not all about me, and as an Alcoholic and Addict I have to realize that.

God, divorce me from expectation. Help me not to take things personal.

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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