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Maintain Sobriety With A Daily Tenth Step

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Tuesday, 13 November 2012. Posted in Ten Step

November 13, 2012

    1. I had this situation with a “frenemy”…..actually just an enemy. He is an acquaintance, and a friend and roommate of a close friend of mine.

    Most recently, I saw him while house-sitting for my close-friend. The acquaintance who was supposed to be gone that weekend for work but he came back early. Therefore, we occupied the same house, diplomatically, for three days.

    The problem occurred when he was in the garden, getting rid of some potted orchids he no longer wanted.

    In fact, he put them on the curb with a sign, inviting people to take them.

On my way to do an errand, I saw these beautiful, colorful orchids, lonely, sitting there. I grabbed two, brought them inside, intending to take them home with me after housesitting.

Well, the acquaintance saw them, then came to me and said, “You know those are mine.” But, if you want them, you can have them…..enjoy them!” He was so smug. I dislike smug so much.

I responded with, “….oh, I thought you threw them away.” He said, “I did, but they are still mine”. I thought, OMG….he just wants me to know that they were his…..how immature.

I have pride, so I declined to keep despite the fact that I wanted them, and returned them to the curb.

My part was that I was prideful and egotistical, so much so that rather than humble myself and acknowledge that they once belonged to him, I returned the beautiful orchids to the curb.

God, divorce me from impatience, pride, frustration and ego.

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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