November 13, 2012
1. I had this situation with a “frenemy”…..actually just an enemy. He is an acquaintance, and a friend and roommate of a close friend of mine.
Most recently, I saw him while house-sitting for my close-friend. The acquaintance who was supposed to be gone that weekend for work but he came back early. Therefore, we occupied the same house, diplomatically, for three days.
The problem occurred when he was in the garden, getting rid of some potted orchids he no longer wanted.
In fact, he put them on the curb with a sign, inviting people to take them.
On my way to do an errand, I saw these beautiful, colorful orchids, lonely, sitting there. I grabbed two, brought them inside, intending to take them home with me after housesitting.
Well, the acquaintance saw them, then came to me and said, “You know those are mine.” But, if you want them, you can have them…..enjoy them!” He was so smug. I dislike smug so much.
I responded with, “….oh, I thought you threw them away.” He said, “I did, but they are still mine”. I thought, OMG….he just wants me to know that they were his…..how immature.
I have pride, so I declined to keep despite the fact that I wanted them, and returned them to the curb.
My part was that I was prideful and egotistical, so much so that rather than humble myself and acknowledge that they once belonged to him, I returned the beautiful orchids to the curb.
God, divorce me from impatience, pride, frustration and ego.
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