For someone who likes to drink occasionally, it is usually when they are around friends or a crowd of people at a party. When it comes to alcoholics, however, they often like to drink in seclusion.
They may make a habit of drinking alone and start to isolate themselves in other ways, pushing away people in their life so that they can continue their addiction. There are many reasons why alcoholics tend to become isolated as their disease grows more severe.
Their underlying motivation is always to continue their drinking habits at the expense of everything else in their life. If anyone or anything were to get in the way of their addictive behavior then they will do what it takes to avoid having to quit.
The power of their addiction can change who they are and even the most social person can become isolated and alone in their alcoholism.
Hiding Drinking Habits through Isolation
One of the reasons that alcoholics eventually start drinking alone is that they want to hide their abuse from people around them. They may rationalize their behavior and think that they enjoy drinking more when alone but they are really trying to be more secretive about how excessive their drinking habits have become.
Often when alcoholics begin drinking more often, they start being questioned by friends and family members. When this happens they may begin to push loved ones away because they do not want to be reprimanded for their drinking.
They may feel that no one understands them as they move further into their isolation. The more that they drink alone and hide their behavior, the more reclusive they can become.
Their solitude can cause more pain to them and push them further into their addiction symptoms. It is common for isolated alcoholics to experience depression, anxiety and loneliness as a result of their disease.
Broken Relationships and Denial
There are many emotions and complex issues involved in why alcoholics become isolated. There are issues of denial, rejection, anger and fear. An alcoholic may drink alone and spend much more time alone because it allows them to live in deep denial.
With no one to see their drinking habits or question their behavior, they can go on believing that they don't have a problem. Their addiction can cause them to feel rejected by the people around them because they have distorted thinking that interferes with their ability maintain a relationship.
As friendships fall apart their isolation increases and they might begin to feel angry about the people in their life. They believe that no one sympathizes with them or understands where they are coming from.
Some alcoholics may already have a reclusive personality before they begin drinking. Their tendency to isolate can actually be a factor in causing their addiction because they are comforting their loneliness by drinking.
Isolation can be a comforting thing for many alcoholics because it means they can drink as much as they want to whenever they want without being judged or criticized by people around them. Alcoholics tend to become very self-absorbed and their isolation gives them time to reflect and focus on themselves rather than being involved in other people's lives.
Alcoholics want and crave distance from other people so that they can grieve for the past or wallow in their depression. When an alcoholic finally chooses to get help for their disease, one of the first things they need to do is become more connected with others and create a support system that will prevent them from slipping into isolation.
Healing from an addiction means shedding reclusive behavior and forming close relationships to stay grounded and accountable.