Can anyone relate to the powerlessness mentioned in the title of this article? As we all may know by now, the title happens to be the first step of our glorious twelve step program.
With that said, powerlessness and unmanageability does not necessarily directly pertain to alcohol or drugs.
Actually, addiction is similar to the game "Whac-A-Mole". The basic premise of the game is to pounce the moles into their individual holes by hitting them, notwithstanding the fact that the moles keep popping up.
Well, I have found addiction to sort of be like that. Now that I have seemingly managed to no longer desire prescription narcotics and alcoholic beverages, I tend to spend too much time people-pleasing at my expense, holding onto grudges too long, or exercising myself into exhaustion.
If I don't have some drama in my life or if I don't keep myself busy doing something compulsively, then anxiety takes over my life. What do I do?
Well, when that unmanageability comes up, I return to my Alcoholics Anonymous program roots. In particular, I recall the first of the Twelve Steps……We admitted we were powerless over (whatever you are dealing with) -that our lives had become unmanageable. That really sums up any situation that may be eating away at us, and as a matter of fact, it is the solution.
My first sponsor told me to just write that sentence over and over again, so as to to really conceptualize it when something is consuming me. Saying it helps as well, but there is something miraculous about thinking it, writing it, and watching it appear on paper as your hand glides across the page. In my case, it is just more helpful.
With the problem temporarily abated from my mind, I take the next indicated step, i.e., I do what is in front of me whether its work, tying my shoes, or even sleeping.
In other words, I acknowledge that I do not know what to do and I let it go, to God. If I begin to worry again, I pray "God help me", and often, if I have the opportunity at the moment, I go to an AA meeting. If I am at home, I meditate, often with candles and ambient music.
If you are feeling powerless over something, whether it is alcohol, drugs, shopping, overspending, love, and so forth, return to the basics and go from there. It works every time.
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