Now that you are clean and sober, are you seeing the big picture in life? Are you missing the view of the forest, because you are looking at the individual trees too long…..stuck in the past, instead of living life happy, joyous and free?
If you are like the typical alcoholic, and you look back at your life, in retrospect, you may recognize that you were not seeing the big picture. You missed a lot for one reason or another, i.e., character defects.
Living a clean and sober life gives you the opportunity to discard the patterns that no longer work for you. Your view of the big picture no longer has to be obscured by those self-defeating patterns that once worked but no longer assist you in any beneficial way.
It is time to let go of those character defects that are causing you so much pain that you have to play Elton John’s Tiny Dancer, on repeat no less, as you roll up into a fetal position and sob uncontrollably.
Are you afraid to trust others?
Are you afraid of intimacy?
Are you afraid of uncertainty, the future or even addressing the past?
Are you afraid to let go?
If this sounds familiar, have compassion for yourself then decide to stop living in pain.
With that said, have you completed a 4th and 5th step?
And, if you have completed a 4th and 5th step, and you are still in pain, perhaps it was not thorough enough. Or, maybe it has been a while and a new inventory is in order.
Otherwise, if you have not completed a 4th and 5th step consider the fact that many alcoholics have found that completing a thorough 4th and 5th step to be absolutely invaluable.
The 4th and 5th step process has even been described as freeing, cathartic and energizing to say the least.
According to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, to do a proper 4th step, we must “make a fearless and thorough moral inventory of ourselves.”
Put another way, we must list all the resentments we have against persons, places and things, preferably on paper.
A proper 5th step is completed by “admitting to God, to ourselves, and another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.”
A recited, we must read all these resentments to another trusted person. Only through this process are we capable of gaining the necessary perspective to see our part in things. Therefore, we recognize any character patterns that are causing us to experience pain. Through the process we learn it is not as much, if at all, about the other person.
It is about us and our reaction to persons, places and things that is causing us to experience so much pain.
Through the process we experience a spiritual transformation and a psychic change. That is when the real fun begins.
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