Completing a daily gratitude list helps the alcoholic and addict remain not only grateful, but also humble.
As the alcoholic and addict constantly remembers to consider and linger on the wonderful things that have happened and continue to happen, she creates a pathway for more goodness to enter her life.
Not only thinking about the beauty in your life, but also writing about all that is wonderful in your life is a daily habit certainly worth developing.
Consider the scientific fact that the mind cannot focus on two things at once.
Therefore, if you choose to focus on all that is good and all that is positive, there is no room to think about the bad, not to mention fertilize the bad.
Don’t get me wrong, you have to take on what I “call the business of life”, but you don’t have to dwell on it.
Face whatever it is, courageous, or as best as you can and then move on gracefully.
If there is any bad, the bad will evenly slip away. Just think of it as putting the bad in a corner and let it starve to death. Neglect it.
Fertilize the good! Nurture the good and let more good flow into your life!
If you have a home, start with being grateful for the roof over your head. A lot of people do not have that roof over their heads.
We alcoholics know or have come across so many alcoholics or addicts who have lost their way so much that they lost their homes or apartments.
Consider the hot water you have to shower with in the morning or at night after a long day of work. What about that basin that you have…..whenever you want, you can fill it with hot water, bubbles, and surround it with candles to relax in.
Hmm, what about that car you have to drive to work in. Ok, perhaps it is not the car that you want! Well, for a moment, consider all the people that do not have cars who would gladly take yours, rather than take the bus in the rain or the dark hours of the early morning.
Meanwhile, your car gets you to and from work, the grocer, to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and to anywhere else you need to go. Be appreciative of the car you have now and eventually you will have a newer or better car.
By focusing on these simple blessings, you prioritize your thoughts, not to mention indirectly discard the bad thoughts, and make room for even more bigger and better blessings to come into your life.
Some alcoholics and addicts are dealing with difficult times at the moment that range from the collapse of marriages and domestic partnership and relationships to aging parents, career transitions and their own sudden awareness that they too are aging, and perhaps even running out of time.
The difference between the alcoholic and addict that continues to drink and use drugs and the alcoholic and addict that remains sober is gratitude or even perception. The sober member of alcoholics anonymous chooses to look at what is good about the situation that she is facing.
The stay-at-home mother who is facing the fact that her youngest child is about to embark on the adventure of adulthood, that includes moving three thousand miles away to attend university can choose to be grateful.
She can be grateful that her son is alive and well, and mature enough to move so far away from home, not to mention the fact that she raised such a courageous and brave child. That courage and bravery will someday contribute to developing this great nation.
That mother must have done something correct in raising her son. Also, she should congratulate herself that she raised a son smart enough to get into a university.
Additionally, she can look at the situation as an adventure for her and her son. Perhaps she can take the opportunity to go back to school, travel more, attend more meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous, and maybe even get involved more in service.
If she is grateful she is less likely to drink or use drugs.
Positive and negative emotions cannot co-exist no more than fire and water can co-exist. Positive knocks out negative, just as water puts out fire.
And, as far as the collapse of a marriage or relationship, perhaps it means that you learned everything you were meant to learn from that relationship and now you are prepared to move on, where the love of your life is waiting.
Or maybe, that significant other was an anchor holding you back, and now that he is no longer holding you back you are free to realize your full potential as a human-being. Now you are fully able to be of service without the burden of your addiction to this person that you loved so much, but perhaps does not deserve the love that you have to give.
Release him, or her for that matter, then soar. There are no mistakes. It is true that you can sometimes only recognize that fact by looking backwards later on.
Give it some time. You will be much more happy than you could ever have imagined.
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