By Alexandra Rose
The phrase “stick with the winners” applies not only in Alcoholics Anonymous (“AA”) but also in every aspect of a person’s life. Hearing this phrase upon entering AA, I was told to hang around the people who are working a program and had something that I wanted and looked up to. Those who sat in the front row, shared about recovery and worked the twelve steps diligently.
As I started to veer away from the program, I noticed my sense of the individuals I kept around me changed into a group of negativity. The goals of my fellows were of nothing I could relate to or want. I even made friendships with those who were “anti-AA” without realizing what I was doing. It wasn’t until I took my blinders off and told myself that I needed to do things differently. I found an amazing sponsor, started to go to new meetings, met different people, and started to work an actual program. I’ve never felt happier.
When I was searching for a new sponsor I started to go to a morning meeting which is now my home group. I saw a group of people in this meeting that sat up front, had great shares, all knew each other, and were regulars at the meeting. I thought to myself, I want to be involved with them because they seem like the winners. As I started to meet each one I realized how serious they were about their sobriety and how welcoming they were to me. When I found my sponsor in this group, I knew I had found the perfect match.
This concept can be used in other areas also. For example, at school I sit up front and I made friends with the students who take the class seriously. The ones who work hard to get good grades like myself, as we also share a common bond of furthering our education. There are always the students who can be disruptive just like there are disruptive people in meetings that I choose not to be around.
It is up to us to take action in developing and maintaining positive energy around us. I absolutely love being sober and I have friends who enjoy it also. Having a positive conversation about sobriety can make my day just right and keep me grateful. Those who know me know I always have a smile on my face and I always try to make others around me happy.
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