As mentioned in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, Acceptance is the Key. The key to my serenity is acceptance.
I particularly love what The Big Book goes on to say, "But "acceptance" does not mean that I have to like it, condone it, or even ignore it. What it does mean is I am powerless to do anything about it... and I have to accept that fact."
"Nor does it mean that I have to accept "unacceptable behavior." Today I have choices. I no longer have to accept abuse in any form. I can choose to walk away, even if it means stepping out into the unknown. I no longer have to fear "change" or the unknown. I can merely accept it as part of the journey."
Webster's Dictionary defines acceptance as: a noun
1 the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered: charges involving the acceptance of bribes | [ as modifier ] : an acceptance speech | he had an acceptance from the magazine.
• a draft or bill that is accepted by being signed.
2 the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group: you must wait for acceptance into the club.
3 agreement with or belief in an idea, opinion, or explanation: acceptance of the teaching of the church.
• willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation: a mood of resigned acceptance.
The more we focus on acceptance of where we are at the moment, the more we as alcoholics and addicts get out of the problem. Suddenly, serenity arrives, as not only does the solution present itself, we suddenly recognize all the reasons we have to be appreciative and grateful. The glass is always "half full."
Just for today, accept life on life's terms. Accept where you are, learn the lesson that you need to learn. More importantly, accept that drug and alcohol consumption no longer works.
When we accept life on life's terms, life takes on a new meaning, perception clears, we are more "accepting" of ourselves, just as we are, and kind to others.
Eventually you will find that whatever is currently plaguing you is nothing more than a distant memory. Newly clean and sober individuals out there, hang on! It only gets better.
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