If you have a loved one in recovery it may be overwhelming and difficult to not only watch them struggle, but to handle your own emotions as well. It's perfectly normal to go through a wide range of emotions when someone you care about is battling an addiction.
At first you may feel relieved that the person you care about is finally getting help. Then you may feel anxious about the outcome. Will they really be able to stay sober, or will this just be another failed attempt?
This is especially common with addicts who have had more than one relapse. It may also be hard for you to let go of anger and hurt that may have been caused by the person's actions.
Relationships between addicts and their loved ones are often very strained, so it's alright to feel doubtful. Know that your feelings are normal and ok to have.
Because of all this, it's important to know how to communicate in a positive and constructive way with the person you care about during their recovery journey. Providing love and tolerance is the best way to show support for a loved one.
The following is a short guide on how to do just that.
Figure out the best way to express your support.
This can take the form of a written letter or email, a close conversation, or a counseling session with the person you know in recovery. Take the opportunity to think about and plan what you want to say.
If you find yourself getting too emotional, writing down your feelings or scheduling a joint counseling session may be the most appropriate options. Find a calm, centered place from which to express your thoughts.
Your loved one is also going through a lot, so you want to be sure that your own emotions are expressed in a loving, tolerant, and constructive way.
Remind your loved one that recovery is all about them.
Sometimes it can be easy to forget why a person went into recovery in the first place. They may say it's for their partner, family, or career and lose track their original purpose.
It's important to remind your loved one that recovery is about taking care of their physical, emotional, and spiritual well being. Recovery is about their self care, and you're only there to provide support.
It's their own responsibility to make the choices they need to get healthy.