Holiday Parties: To Go or Not To Go?!

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Thursday, 13 December 2012. Posted in Voices in Recovery, Breaking News

Sobriety During Holidays

Yes, it is that time of year if you have not already noticed from the weather change, in the east, and all the decorations for that matter, everywhere.

It is Christmas time and New Year’s is right around the corner. As such, there are plenty of parties, functions, dinners and gatherings where the opportunity for sober memories may be made.

Individuals and companies, alike, are organizing and preparing for some of the most decadent and festive holiday parties and dinners…..I should know, I have been to a couple already!

These parties are not only great opportunities to see friends and family, but also a wonderful opportunity to be creative with fashion and express ourselves.

For others, they are great platforms to celebrate end of the year work performance or victories.

Meanwhile, for others it is a trip down memory lane and for others it is the start of new beginnings and traditions.

With that said, you might be thinking what the problem could possibly be with regard to attending holiday parties!

Well, the concern is not so much the party itself, but the alcohol (usually open bar from my experience), and if you are in Los Angeles, New York, or some other cosmopolitan metropolis, buffets of drugs could be present as well.

Regarding the latter, addicts and alcoholics might otherwise be selfish with their drugs and alcohol during the year, but this is the time when they tend to be giving and share there “stash.”

I have been to more than a few tony holiday parties, and celebrities and other notables, in which drugs were shockingly, everywhere, in ornately decorated porcelain and crystal candy dishes.

To make a long story short, we should prepare in advance for the presence of such, and definitely, the possibility of temptation!

Perhaps you might consider going to the party for a short period of time, particularly if it is a company party, just to show your face, and emphasize that you are a team-player.

Otherwise, you might consider taking a sober companion/or friend. Two in mind are stronger than one, particularly with regard to temptation, so keep that in mind.

Also, you could always insert the phone numbers of a few sober fellows into your iphone, those that you could call should you need to share about the desire or temptation to drink or use available drugs.

You could even request that a few fellows call you to check in every half hour or even every fifteen minutes until you have exited the party, sober of course.

If you have at least one year of sobriety, I personally think it is ok to go to a holiday party where alcohol is served, so long as you have a reason to be there, i.e., family, friends, work, and so forth.

Even in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous there is a reference to not avoiding places where alcohol is served, should we have a reason to be there.

In life, there will always be temptation. At some point we have to have faith in our ability to withstand it, particularly once we have worked the twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous and are committed to sobriety.

If all else fails, consult your Higher Power, he/or she is bigger than any glass of wine/or champagne, cocktail, or even drug.

Go, and make sober memories!

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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