Have You Ever Felt Like You Were Being Skinned Alive?

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Friday, 26 October 2012. Posted in Voices in Recovery, Breaking News

Addiction Recovery

Alcoholics and addicts, if everything is “chill”, comfortable, and calm in your life, perhaps you are not doing something right!

Chances are that you are experiencing stagnancy. A stagnate life, for an alcoholic or addict, is no better than death!

On the other hand, an alcoholic or addict whose life contains ebbs and flows, contrasting experiences, steady change, a wide range of emotions, even the occasional period of chaos, as well as lessons learned and, in turn, “aha” moments, is doing something very correct, provided he is not drinking or using drugs!

In fact, the peace or calm that we alcoholics and addicts are searching for is in the storm ironically. It is in that very moment when we become present enough to surrender to and recognize that “what is, is in fact what is”, and then we choose to make the best of it, slow down, stop resisting, and learn the lesson that needs to be learned.

“No pain no gain.” Recently, I heard someone speak the words “If you are not in pain, you are not growing.” Take it with a grain of salt, but for most part the principle seems to be correct, in that growth is difficult, at times. Nevertheless, if you hang on, you will certainly realize that it was all worth it.

Something really clicked when I heard those words that I have no doubt heard a many times before. It was an aha moment, as those words were so pertinent to what I have been experiencing in my life!

With that said, I have never preferred comfort zones. Clearly, comforts zones can be boring and monotonous, but that is not really it. Challenges, adversity, and obstacles, or overcoming them that is, is exciting and provides me with a purpose to fill that “God-sized” hole that us alcoholics and addicts are plagued with.

I love strengthening my ability to walk through something, whatever it is, clean and sober, present enough to make appropriate choices, develop character and wisdom, not to mention gain experience.

No, I do not love pain, disorder, or chaos, but what I am recognizing from experience is that comfort and predictability is overrated. Case in point, when I was consuming prescription pills and drinking, there was a lot of comfort and predictability in my life.

In fact, despite the fact that my life was mundane, streamlined and comfortable, I felt indifferent and apathetic, as my world was literally unraveling and falling apart.

With that said, today I feel like I am being “skinned alive.” That is a matter of perception, and when I shift my perception in the right direction I realize what I am feeling and experiencing is in fact growth. It is nothing more than growing pains and it too will pass.

If we grateful recovering alcoholics and addicts are able to live through the pressures, chaos, random incidents, and even the tragedy that is thrown our way, and despite it all, not use drugs or pills, nor drink, we will surely be the recipients of amazing spiritual and tangible benefits.

Just hang on and we will look back, in retrospect, and realize that our higher power was preparing us for something…..something big……something awesome…..something we could have never imagined or dreamed up for ourselves! This I know is true!

As we are less concerned with resisting the problem, stopping the problem, or begging our higher powers to make the problems go away, and instead pray for strength, endurance and the focus to walk through it, that is when the shift in perception occurs, and often the miracle that accompanies it.

In fact, as we pray through the rough spots we really become closer to the Gods of our own understanding. Before we know it, if we simply have faith, the problem will be over, you will have gotten through it, and you will be stronger, more confident and wiser as a result of it.

If you are facing troubling situations, look at them in a different way. Instead of saying this is awful, there is no God, or I want to use drugs or drink alcohol, perhaps you might convene with your higher power, and ask him or her, what is the meaning of this…..what are you trying to teach me?

Then, do your best to grasp it, learn the lesson, act accordingly, and watch the issue slip away, out of your life.

If you or someone that you love is struggling with alcoholism or drug addiction, please text or call us. We want to help you!

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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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