Handling A Loss In Sobriety
We can get through hard times in sobriety without taking a drink or drug. Many of us encounter a life event that can devastate us and provide an “excuse” to drink.
By Alexandra Rose
We can get through hard times in sobriety without taking a drink or drug. Many of us encounter a life event that can devastate us and provide an “excuse” to drink. Though this isn’t true because we don’t drink or use no matter what. Whenever I speak at a meeting I tell the story of the death I went through in sobriety and how I was able to handle it.
Right before I had six months of sobriety, the closest person to me died. Upon going to rehab and starting my journey in sobriety I had the reservation that I will use if this person dies because I will not be able to “handle it.” Well it happened and the day of my six months was her funeral. I can say today that I am still sober and that I got through the death by doing what was suggested to do for my sobriety. I prayed, went to meetings, called my sponsor, and knew that if I were to use it would make things so much worse.
I was present in the realty of the situation and was able to help others affected by the loss. The responsibility to provide support for those also devastated was apparent as I was looked up to for strength. If I had used I wouldn’t have been able to go through the grieving process thus the pain would have been even greater. At that time it wasn’t about me. Also, the one I lost would of never of wanted to see me use again.
I spoke at a meeting last night and shared this story as I usually do. Not only to share about the loss I encountered in sobriety but the message I presented that we can get through something like this without drugs and alcohol. When I think that I can’t handle a situation in sobriety I think back to how I was able to cope with my loss. Knowing that I was able to get through the death pushes me to know that I am able to handle whatever comes my way without picking up a drink. I hope my experience is able to provide hope to those out there who think they will use or drink after a loss as I described.
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