Alcoholics And Addicts Cannot Afford To Be Angry

Written by DeShawn McQueen on Tuesday, 23 October 2012. Posted in Voices in Recovery, Breaking News, Alcohol

Resentments and Addiction

Stop clinging to the past. Don’t Let your lives pass you by because of anger and resentment!

Recovering alcoholics and addicts, I suspect, can remember the days when anger and resentment ruled their lives.

In retrospect, we realize now much time we wasted, self-righteously, ruminating about what tragic circumstances we had to face as children or adolescents. Oh the crosses we had to bear.

Focusing on those crosses is why most of us used drugs and alcohol to escape…..escaping the pain of those years and all those memories, to stop that ticker tape from running in our heads.

Nevertheless, that is exactly what it felt like….bearing a cross! And, what the betrayals from friends or family members and the relationships that went away?!

Before, all the pain provided us with plenty of reasons to be angry, hold resentments, consume drugs and alcohol, cry, sleep and listen to Tori Amos all day as we nursed resentments, getting exactly nowhere in life.

Today, we don’t have to do that! We don’t have to act impulsively on resentments. We do not have to self-sabotage.

We can recognize how we feel. We can become self-aware. But, we don’t have to become fixated on the anger and resentment.

In the interest of maintaining our welfare, we learn to process the anger, by talking about it with a sponsor, a trusted friend, or in a general way during a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous.

After that, no matter how much we want to ferment, we do not. We move on with life. We live life because we deserve to.

Life is too short to live any more of it angry, if we can help it! And we can help it because we have the program of Alcoholics Anonymous.

As we develop control over our emotions, we, in turn, develop control over our lives.

Our goal is to feel light and joyful……to shake off any frustrations that come our way. Get prepared to do just that, shake them off, because they come your way; that is just life. But, eventually, with practice you will not even recognize them, or in the least, they will not affect you the way that they once did.

There is nothing sustaining about anger and resentment, even righteous anger.

Anger and resentment depletes us, distorts our features, stunts our creativity, leaves us feeling unfulfilled and separates us from are fellows.

No matter what the experience, we have to move forward, and bounce back. Just keep bouncing back, no matter what….keep getting back on that horse!

Continue to live life happily, on your on terms, dictated by no prior pain.


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About the Author

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen

DeShawn McQueen is a staff writer at Recovery Now Newspaper and Recoverynowtv.com, an informative newspaper that serves as a resource for persons of all stages of drug and alcohol treatment, by giving them access to relevant and necessary information so that they may live balanced and substance-free lifestyles. DeShawn graduated from Wayne State University with Bachelor of Science degrees in psychology and premedical sciences. He holds a Juris Doctors degree in law from Valparaiso University School of Law. DeShawn’s writing and research has been published in such academic journals as Behavioral Pharmacology and Pharmacology, Biochemistry and Behavior among others. He lives in Los Angeles, California.

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