I am sure that alcoholics and addicts have heard this a million times or more in sobriety. But, it is true. Somehow, if you believe it and have faith that it is true, that is exactly what happens…..everything turns out fine. In fact, everything will always be ok.
You might say, “I am facing this court situation….or, my children are being taken away, or they have been taken away……I lost my license……I got fired, I am losing my apartment, and so on.”
The response of the old-timer is, “It’s going to be ok, provided you don’t use drugs or drink alcohol.”
They say that because they have experience, and based on their experience, if you accept the situation for what it is, learn from it, and do not drink or use drugs, everything will always be ok, no matter what. The right result will occur, and it is always what we need, even though sometimes it is not what we want.
Alcoholics and addicts often make decisions to not drink or use drugs, but when the going gets tough, which is basically life providing you with opportunities to test your resolve, we often panic, and revert back to our old ways of behavior, which often involves drinking alcohol and using drugs to cope with the pressure and chaos.
If we attend meetings, obtain a sponsor, take suggestions, pray, meditate, and try to gain self-awareness by completing a daily 10th step, everything else usually will fall into place.
The problem for the alcoholic or addict is trusting. Our ability to trust in something beyond ourselves is impaired, but not beyond repair. Actually, with practice and constant maintenance, the ability to trust is strengthened.
With that said, the alcoholic must be willing to trust the process enough to actually follow through with the process, despite how he or she feels at the moment.
Many of you have heard it before, that it is easy to do everything right when you feel good or when everything is going well.
The challenge of developing character and self-awareness comes with doing what is suggested despite how you feel, despite your circumstances, and particularly when the proverbial crap hits the fan. What I am learning is that when the crap does hit the fan, I can turn the fan off.
You know how to turn the fan off? Praying and following suggestions.
If you continue to work a moderate program, even in the face of adversity, sadness, depression, anger, frustration, confusion, and so on, circumstances, not to mention feelings will eventually relent to your will even.
Change is constant; there is an ebb and flow of life. Although, what you can control is the direction of your change. You can ascend or descend in direct correlation to the effort you put into working your program. This I know is true.
In fact, developing the habit of working a program, no matter what, is how faith and belief that everything will be ok develops and grows, and eventually becomes second nature.
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