My friend, the Alcoholic/Addict that I informed you all of last week, he called! I was not sure, but I had faith that he would come through.
He called the following day, just as he said he would. As well, he accepted the offer for substance abuse treatment and employment that my friend extended to him.
I am happy to say that he seems to be doing well as he comes out of the drug and alcohol haze that so many Alcoholics and Addicts must emerge from during early sobriety.
He has five days clean and sober. I took him to a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous on Saturday, and when he was selected to share, he sincerely exclaimed, “…I am glad to be back in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous and I don’t plan on giving up my seat for a long time.”
Already, he is taking direction, which includes getting to as many meetings as possible.
This is his first time in treatment, on his own accord, and without the help of his parents so he feels more involved and responsible for the outcome.
I tell him, “focus on the effort, and let God handle the outcome”. In other words, “Let Go and Let God.”
Although Pacey is only 24 years old, he is a veteran of the United States Armed Forces. He was Marine and he received an Honorable discharge.
To be honest, the first time I met him I thought he was an actor, as he strongly resembles a very famous actor, and he definitely has the disposition, or at least that is most people’s first perception of him.
Furthermore, not that it is an excuse, but Pacey’s drug habit began when he returned from the active duty.
He was apprehensive about it, but he shared a little of what he saw and experienced overseas, as he fought to protect our right to sit down this Thanksgiving and enjoy dinner with family and friends.
As Pacey sobers up, I recognize the uneasiness that he seems to feel when people walk behind him, or approach him from behind.
Although he tries to remain calm, he is easily startled. He often stares off, with a pensiveness that only another Addict/Alcoholic, particularly one that is a soldier, can relate to.
I would definitely say that beyond Alcoholism and Addiction, Post Traumatic Stress seems to be affecting his quality of life.
He seems lost and trapped inside his head, definitely wounded, frightened and restless. Even when he is “there”……he does not quite seem there.
Perhaps he is thinking about some awful image of war, killing, death, destruction and so on that he saw or experienced during his time in the Middle East. Or maybe, he is thinking about how bottle of vodka would relax him.
Pacey shared with me that vodka is what he drinks so that he won’t return to shooting up heroin or snorting methamphetamine, both of which he did last week before choosing to get clean and sober.
He pulled up his sleeve and showed me the not so fresh track marks, proud that he is clean from Heroin.
I try not to ask too many questions. Instead, I focus on the bright future ahead of him if he stays sober.
I listen mostly and remain a calming presence when I am around him. I am good at that so that is not a problem for me…………………………..
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