When someone you love has an alcohol problem, it can seem overwhelming to try to help them or convince them to enter treatment. You don't want to push them away or make the problem worse by confronting them, but you can't go on watching them in their self-destruction.
The only option is to organize an alcoholic intervention with a group of people that want them to get help as much as you do. How you set up an intervention that will be successful in getting them to go to rehab? There are plenty of resources available that can help you create the best possible intervention.
You can educate yourself by researching the topic or employ intervention services to help you in you organize and facilitate the whole discussion. Here are some tips for helping to set up a successful intervention.
1. Carefully Put Together a Group
An intervention can only be effective if the right people are there to communicate to their loved one about their alcohol problem. You need to choose with care when you select the people who are going to attend because they must be persuasive without being too aggressive and they must have a meaningful relationship with the alcoholic.
Do not invite anyone who does not have a good relationship with the addict because it could lead to conflict. Inviting acquaintances rather than close friends and family might make them feel unnecessary shame and embarrassment. The right family members and friends can help facilitate a successful intervention.
2. Find the Right Time to Open a Discussion
Timing can be very important when you are setting up an intervention. You will want to make sure the person is sober and is in a time in their life when they are more likely to listen. The must be completely sober, in control and able to focus on what everyone is saying. It can be a good idea to hold an intervention right after a drinking-related incident that strongly affected them such as getting a DUI or being arrested.
They might already be thinking about the consequences of their drinking behavior and want to avoid the same thing from happening again in the future. They will be in a better position to listen if you time the intervention in this way.
3. Use a Private Formal Location
While some people might hold interventions in the family home this may not be the best choice because the alcoholic will be able to retreat to their bedroom in they don't want to talk. It can be more effective to choose a formal space to meet such as a conference room or therapy office which is more neutral and the alcoholic will have no choice but to sit and listen. There will also be less tension since people are usually on their best behavior in this type of space.
4. Rehearse in Advance
If you are worried about any factors being out of your control, it can be helpful to prepare and rehearse the process in advance before actually confronting the alcoholic. It will give you a better idea of what everyone in the group is planning to say. You can make adjustments if there seem to be any charged emotions that could impede the success of the intervention.
5. Develop a Backup Plan
Although you might have prepared and rehearsed the intervention, addicts can at times be unpredictable in their reactions. Come up with a backup plan for any scenario that might take place so that you can handle anything that might come up in the intervention. You need to be prepared for any situation so that you can still convince the addict to enter treatment no matter how they react initially.